4 Characteristics of Totally Chill People
Or, Not Letting Disappointment Harsh Your Mellow
If you are a human, you will inevitably face disappointment and frustration, that’s just a simple fact. Whether you let it derail you is less a fact and more a choice.
Have you noticed the people in your life who are completely rattled when things go awry compared with the people who roll with it, and simply shift gears? It’s not that difficult to be the second type of person if you identify the ways to do it. That is, of course, if you prefer leading a less chaotic and more zen-like life. I am firmly in category 2. So join me, and try out these 4 ways of handling shifting sands embraced by totally chill people.
1. They recognize that they control their thoughts, but not their feelings.
There’s a fairness in understanding that directly trying to make yourself feel more happy is a recipe for failure. If your response is to just “be happy,” you simply can’t. You are not a happiness factory.
- Trying to force emotions like happiness is like force-feeding a baby a tasteless vegetable. It will end in disaster. You will feel more unhappy.
- Trying to artificially find your way out of anger typically leads to — you guessed it — more anger, either at yourself…
