A Soul-Crushing Life with A Reactive Abuser

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“You are totally over sensitive.”

“This is totally not my fault and you know it.”

“You always embarrass yourself. Everyone says so.”

Saying things like this to put the blame on a partner, working hard to show that there’s nothing worth reacting over, minimizing the damage — all of those are tactics of “reactive abuse.” When abusers…