Adam, obviously more goes into it than that, and you should probably read my other essays to determine all of the factors that led to our divorce. But money is the primary factor in divorces overall. 60%, in fact. You noted a "gambling problem." I don't happen to know what he spends his money on, because he hid that from me. What I DO know is that even now, six years after our split, he is still incapable of even offering our (grown) children any help with a downpayment on a car, or sending a $20 in a birthday card, and yet I do that stuff all the time, while I gained financial stability. I didn't just wake up one day and decide to leave. I decided over time that it was too stressful to wonder whether our future could ever be saved, and whether he would try to help save it.