I think you overlooked the paragraph where I wrote: "No matter how much or how little I was able to contribute to the coffers (during our marriage, at varying points I held part-time or full-time work, went back to college, worked two jobs), he couldn’t manage his portion of the income stream, which dried up in late summer."

I did not live beyond our means.

He did not - would not - be honest about his income. It's called financial abuse.

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