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I Tried Not To Be An Angry Ex-Wife
But here I am, and I can’t help it.
I promised myself I wouldn’t be one, but here I am. I’m an angry ex-wife. I occasionally post snarky, backhanded things on Facebook designed to insult my ex. I sneer at the mention of his name. These are the things that, when we were married, I would chastise in other women.
“Why do they have to be that way? When people get divorced, they have to remember what they once loved in each other. I mean, be adults.”
How wonderfully naive.
When we first separated, I said out loud to people, to mutual friends, “Our divorce is amicable. We’re doing our best to still be friends, because this was a long time coming.” Much of that statement was true. But I’ve come to see why so many divorcing and divorced couples end up simply enraged — in hopes that if you are in that spot, you might try to avoid some of what I think are common potholes:
We had only been separated a couple weeks when my ex asked if he could come over to my new place to talk. I said sure. We took the dog for a walk.
“I want to talk about support,” he said. “Okay…” I said.
“Can we just do it on our own?” He asked. “What do you mean?” I asked. “Well, I heard some guys end up paying like two thousand a month, and I just…
