Thanks, Tekisha. Don't overlook the paragraph that points out that I worked, sometimes 2 jobs, and we saved money when I didn't pay for daycare, but took care of our toddlers myself.

Now divorced, I earn more than he does, true, but he still can't pay his bills, so I'm left to wonder which one of us had money issues.

It was when he was dishonest and not transparent that was a huge problem, not that we didn't both "contribute." Look up what daycare costs if you want to see just what I was contributing. It was kind of a lot.