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You’re Too Old to Be a F* Buddy
After 40, It’s Time For Something More
I’ve read up on this. I’ve looked at blog posts, Quora articles, Buzzfeed, Reddit. A bunch of places. I’ve tried to be sincerely open minded. I’m a twice-divorced woman who is no snob when it comes to sex. I’m not looking for my next marriage, believe me. But this much I know: at a certain age, it’s just weird to look across the sheets and see someone who is only a FWB, just a fling in the bed, here for a good time not for a long time.
Well, okay, that last one? If you want to categorize that last one as serial monogamy, I guess I’d be okay with that. Allow me to put some rails around what I am saying here.
Where I’m drawing the line is — when you are a grown up, a real grown up, that is, post-kids, probably divorced, kiddos in or even out of college, and you are living your second solo life, is it really necessary to go back to your college dorm days of having any person who is ‘just a fling?’ Aren’t we past all that?
I’m not talking about the one-night stand or the person you sleep with once or twice but then figure out it’s not all you thought it was and so you stop. Those are expected, because y’know, we all have to figure that stuff out. I’m talking about the legit FWB arrangements. I just don’t get it.
